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By Ladi Ayodeji, Life Coach
Many homes are in turmoil today because of poor relational skill, foundational problem and other relationship problems that are rooted in pre – marital periods. Here’re somethings to note as you prepare for weddings:
First, know that wedding is just an event; it doesn’t go beyond a night. So, you’ve to prepare for the long haul. Look out for what sustains the marriage and work those, like, good cooking skills, a well-equipped kitchen, and deliberate improvement on your home management skill.
Make sure you know his tolerance level for accommodating outsiders; whether he’d like live-in relatives from his wife. Talk about this, including the prospects of mother-in-laws who visit to help after child bearing. These things could destabilize homes if taken for granted.
MONEY: Even as you plan your wedding together, discuss domestic finances, its very important. How do you pay for rent, foodstuffs, school fees when the kids come etc. You ought to agree on bills before you wed, because money is one of the biggest causes of marital instability.
WORSHIP: If you are both Christians, you should agree on where to continue to worship after wedding. Do not assume that your spouse would be happy to follow you to your church after the wedding; it doesn’t follow. And this could create conflict where one of the partners is a major worker in their church, and wouldn’t want to give up the assignment.
Many people are emotionally attached to their church and wouldn’t want to quit for any reason.
Marriage tends to end many friendships between partners and their friends. While this is understandable, it could cause friction in some cases where the friendship is very strong. A lot of tact is required to manage post-marriage, inherited relationships, especially the ones that pre-dates the marriage.
We’d discuss other issues in future editions.
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