Life as a widow is very challenging, especially if you have children. You begin to shoulder the full responsibilities alone; and it’s not easy for one person to single- handedly bear the burden of two.
Here’re some valuable tips on how to manage life as a widow:
Realize you’re a single mother, with very huge responsibilities on your shoulders.
It’s risky to rely on people for your daily sustenance. So, you’re to work. Find something to do that could generate enough income for you and your immediate family.
Do away with all the domestic baggage your husband left behind, like househelps, drivers and other domestic workers you can’t afford to keep. Do away with luxuries.
Cut down drastically on your spending. Your budget should match your income. Move out of the house you are living into a smaller, more affordable one, if you’re living in a rented apartment.
Move your kids out of the expensive schools they attend to cheaper ones. It would save you the seasonal stress of paying higher school fees.
If you still want to remarry for what reasons, be very careful. You have to ensure your new husband is willing to accept your children. He must be ready to be a good step-father.
As much as possible, don’t antagonize your in-laws. They’re your late husband’s people and you must be at peace with them.
Reject any achaic cultural practices involving widows that oppress you; especially if such actions have no basis in scripture (Bible).
Always put your children into consideration before you take decisions.
Live a disciplined life. Again, remarry if you need a man and don’t sleep around.
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