Quiet sighs …..
Silent cries ……
Sightless stares…..
Fuelled by frustration ….
Tear drops….
Mixed with rain-drops ….
Heart aches ….
These are evidences of quiet storms
Broken dreams …..
Wounded hearts …..
Day time nightmares …..
Stark dark dungeons….
Of unspeakable pains…….
Frankenstein of a once beautiful hope……
Panting songs …
Painful visions ….
Crawling success ……
Monday morning blues …
Fridays of fried hopes
Fiery red-hot words ….
That scalds and burns out reason……
These are all the evidences of a brewing horrid stew.
I could not dream
because I refused to sleep
No bread to cream
Because mine is baked of sorrow
Longed for the passion of humanness
Stayed hung on hope eternal
Until the horse kick hit my chest
my eyes then drew its lids close on that side
and opened at the portals of the eternal side
I am Osinachi, the song that my love refused to sing
He pressed the pause button
So I passed buried as a lyric unpublished
I want to begin this write-up by stating that contrary to popular opinions divorce is not a terminal disease that would forestall anyone’s admission into paradise. Marriage is more than my love for the wife/husband of my youth. The dignity and power of marriage are far higher than a romantic and soft-cell affection; that is what the Greeks call “Eros.” Marriage is God’s ordinance through which He wills to perpetuate the human race till the end of time. In marriage, the wife and the husband become a link in the chain of the generations both contemporary, past, and yet to come of the execution of God’s eternal plans on earth. In marriage, the couples are placed in a position of accountable responsibility toward the world in general and mankind in particular. That is why in Jewish marriages the parents of the bride keep the sheets spread on the bed of consummation as evidence of their accountability and a token of their daughter’s virginity. While love is our own private possession, marriage is far more than personal in that it is a state of the affair; an office to which two persons are called into one ministerial office. It is only in Christianity that marriages can achieve a significance that was not known in ancient times. It also brought the forgotten dignity of women to light and her values began to be increasingly acknowledged. The wife is not a mere helper of her husband; she is no chattel to dispose of at will but she is rather a joint heir, with the man, of eternal life – 1 Peter 3:1-7.
In Christ, there is set before the man and his wife the task of presenting upon the earth the image of the existing spiritual union between Christ and His church. This image is mostly displayed through sacrifice, devotion and fidelity. In Christianity, marriage is not a moral thing which can be doctored to fit into the desires of the parties thereto; but it is the unfolding of the mystery between the Church and Christ which is far higher than any moral sensation or feeling. (Ephesians 5: 32)
Jesus taught us in Matt. 19:5 (Living Bible) that Christian marriages are a forever thing only separable by death. It is a life–long covenant to abide together in the fear of God. If we make the mistake of choosing the wrong person as our life partner, it’s’ likely that our usefulness to God will be diminished at least by 60%. I knew a lady at Redemption Club, Uniport, back in the early 90s whose voice could raise the dead. She was in the same fellowship with Sinach but no one has heard of that lady after marriage. I presume that her husband quenched the fire of a singing ministry that could have been as global as Sinach’s. On the other hand, for us to make the right choice, we must involve God and seek the favour of a mate from Him. Christian marriage is meant to be forever just as the Church is one with Christ.
Marriage was designed to make us ride on the purple and grey striped stallion to a beautiful place where the stars hug the seas. By this, we mean that it requires a lot of love and sacrifice to hang on to this beautiful but galloping stallion until it comes to fruition. Marriage is a good institution designed to bring young lives to maturity and fruition.
Sadly as was most recently evidenced by the death of a dear treasure of a sister and anointed Psalmist Osinachi some young lives hardly grow to fruition in marriage because of Unequal yoking. Many folks today abandon reason; shun counsel and play Rehoboam in their choices of life partners and the path of counsel to tow. Many are drawn by the apparent presence of wealth or fame whilst disregarding the spiritual and moral quotient of the person.
When it is found by the offended party that such differences exist between them as could constitute irreconcilable differences, then it is important that the parties divorce and stay divorced. Two cannot walk together except they agreed to so do. In the book of 1 Corinthians 7:15-16 it is permitted that an unbelieving wife or husband can initiate steps and depart from the marriage; especially where the differences are founded on disagreements on core biblical values. In that case, the parties are not under compulsion to insist on staying in the marriage. If a man who claimed to love a lady starts to beat her randomly. it is obvious that he is a liar and cannot be trusted. Why? He hates himself and the pounding of his wife is akin to gross masochism. It is not God’s will for anyone to perish and no one can be said to have died in God’s will who stayed in an abusive marriage that eventually took his/her life. Here is wisdom: There are provisions for departure in both the Hebrew and Christian Bibles.
Deuteronomy 24:1-3
WHEN A man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a bill of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house,
2 And when she departs out of his house she goes and marries another man,
3 And if the latter husband dislikes her and writes her a bill of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies, who took her as his wife,
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1 Corinthians 7:15-17
15 (But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you to live in peace.)
16 Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don’t you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you?
17 Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches.- New Living Translation ®, copyright © 1996, 2004 by Tyndale Charitable Trust. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers. All rights reserved.
Even God at a point divorced Israel when His chosen bride/nation became adulterous.
Jeremiah 3:8
8 And I saw, even though [Judah knew] that for this very cause of committing adultery (idolatry) I [the Lord] had put faithless Israel away and given her a bill of divorce; yet her faithless and treacherous sister Judah was not afraid, but she also went and played the harlot [following after idols]. – AMP
God hates divorce and putting away as much as he hates domestic violence. From the way it is couched in Malachi, it appears that the major cause of divorce is violence in the post-Babylonian captivity era. He hates divorce (a practice) and hates the practitioner (person) who covers his wife with violence
Malachi 2:16
16 For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce and marital separation and him who covers his garment [his wife] with violence. Therefore keep a watch upon your spirit [that it may be controlled by My Spirit], that you deal not treacherously and faithlessly [with your marriage mate].-AMP
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