The dating game is as old as mankind. It’s an exciting period for young lovers, more so, the first date.
Just like the first day at school, work, or the first sexual experience, the first date has some important implications for the couple.
They say, there’s never a second opportunity to create the first impression. So, I have studied the subject of romance in the area of dating and came up with the suggestions below:
1: Be punctual. That’s the first rule. Don’t keep your lover waiting. Time is of the essence in anything in life. Someone who is not time- conscious is careless and unreliable. Such a person cannot be trusted. That’s the signal you are giving if are not punctual. Avoid African time.
2: When you meet, exchange pleasantries. If your friend initiates a hug, respond warmly; don’t be shy and try to hold back. In some cultures, body contact are forbidden until marriage. Some hold back gestures like kissing on the cheeks for religious reasons. People are held captive by religious beliefs and doctrines; you have to understand that.
3: In some societies, either couple may pay their own bills for food and drinks. However, in many parts of Africa, the man is expected to pick up the bills during dating. Whatever the case, show moderation. Don’t place expensive orders. Reasonable bills show you are prudent.
4: Don’t overstay. Make the first date short and meaningful, to avoid boredom. End the meeting if your partner gives any indication they want to leave.
5: Make your partner feel relaxed and comfortable. Be a friend that’s good company, nice to be with.
6: Avoid argument. Never allow contention to develop from your conversation. Try to find out the likes and dislikes of your partner. If you are tactful, you can know something about their temperament from the way they treat waiters and people you interact with during that first, but a brief date.
7: Be a little bit quiet. Let your partner do the talking and don’t interrupt to show good manners.
8: Nothing in your dressing, personal hygiene, body odour, or mannerisms, should repel your partner. Avoid eating cucumber when going out, it could cause bad breath.
9: Be a loving person who is nice and memorable to encounter.
10: Give your partner a parting gift and let them initiate the time and date of the next time-out, and then agree mutually.
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